More Butterfly Days

Whether you’re 25 or 85  you can be free to be you.

You can form close, long-lasting relationships.  You can make a difference in people’s lives.  You can find and embrace your amazing self—the God designed person you really are.   You can wake up in the morning without the fog.  You can change your journey going forward.

If you’re like many people that I know, myself included, you want more butterfly days and fewer covered in catepillar ones.  You want MORE freedom from shame attacks and debilitating thoughts and emotions.    You want to tune out the critics—both the ones inside and outside your head  who say you aren’t enough–smart enough, young enough,  too much of this and not enough of that.     You’d like to stay focused on your God given ability and potential, so that you can spread your wings and flyabove it all more of the time.

If that’s you, and you’d like a friend/mentor/coach/ and fellow traveler along the way,  I can help.   In my 40+ years as a counselor/coach serving primarily the faith community,  I’m no stranger to “foggy mornings” and “stuck times.”  In fact, launching Free to Be You was a huge “stuck time” for me.


Truth be told, stepping out of my comfort zone into the unknown world of podcasting and blogging freaked me out.  I’ve been a counselor/coach for over 40 years, but when it comes to all thing internet related, I’m a newbie, a child.  My 7 year old granddaughter  is more adept than I am.  As I tried to launch this website, I kept hearing that inner critic say, “You can’t do this technology stuff.  More over, you’re too old.  Your brain can’t create anymore.  You wrote a book once, but it’s been too long ago.  It’s time to hang it up.  Be realistic!!”  (Read my story in the free ebook above. )


Here’s the thing.  We all face times when we feel helpless and hopeless, forgetful of our giftedness and fearful that our deepest fears about ourselves may be true.  No matter how together we may appear on the outside, we can allow lie based thinking to keep us from being the contented, peaceful, courageous and productive people God designed us to be. we’re all on a shared journey of imperfect progress toward finding and enjoying who we really are.

None of us has arrived.

So we can take off our masks and stop pretending.

We can be real and be loved at the same time.

We can do it together.



Everyone has pivotal moments when you realize that you can’t remain the same.

Maybe your moment happened through a crises–a job loss, a divorce, the death of a spouse, a health challenge, an undeniable addition, or just the empty nest or retirement.




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